Triggers August 07 2015, 0 Comments
With my closest relationships I feel especially determined to make sure I try my hardest. I have something called my short list. These are my friends and family that I would do about anything for. Call me day or night and I would come running, no questions asked.
Obviously, my kids are on that list.
Since these are my most important relationships I have intentionally put what I call triggers in my life with them. The trigger is what I think of the moment I see them. I am setting the mood for how I want to be when I am with them. My daughter told me one time that I was the happiest person she knew. That didn't happen by accident. It happened because no matter what else was going on, I was doing my best to find something to be happy about.
One of the triggers was when my daughter was accepted into a school that she wanted to get into and to remember how ecstatic she was.
Another time was when all of my kids and I were line dancing in the kitchen to Beyonce.
Another time was when my daughter first saw the beach as a toddler and she loved it so much that she was trying to eat the sand!
My triggers are really just cute memories that I think of that makes me amused or happy. No one knows what I am thinking, but I am smiling.
You can really project a positive interaction with your relationships if you choose to do so. I have found that thinking of these triggers is a good way to support that approach. It's not just a general - have a positive attitude. It's a personal memory that triggers a good start to the next interaction.
what one nice thing have you done for yourself today?